Life, People

The Observer: Practicing Detachment

Much of humanity is primarily motivated by anger and fear — anger over a job that people don’t like and the people in the workplace or it could be that someone is angry with someone else because of unmet expectations. In a situation like this, it is always worthwhile to check, is it really because of the thoughts, words, and actions of others in the past, or is it because of our own thoughts, words, and actions in the moment?
When I find myself in situations like these where my blood is boiling or my stomach is churning, I try to get into the habit of stepping outside myself and becoming the observer. This practice is easier to do in the heat of the moment if you’ve practiced it before the battle gets started.

Detaching releases the tension, diffuses the negative energy, and helps us to see the insignificance of events in the whole scheme of things. It also gives us a chance to see what lessons we might need to learn.

By responding harshly or selfishly, we simply make matters worse. To act as usual with compassion is always the root of relationships and the road to relief, but without attachment to the outcome.